19 May 2022

Nobody is Coming To Save You

Nobody is coming to push you. Nobody is coming to come and encourage you to get up in the morning to go to the gym. Nobody is going to get you motivated. Nobody is going to do the handwork for you. It’s all you baby. Nobody is coming to save you.

I’ve hard this quote many times in the past and it always used to make me feel sad. What do you mean nobody is coming to save me? What about the people who live me and care about me?

Over time I’ve learned to accept the truth. It’s not that people won’t be around to help and support you, motivate you and help you, but ultimately your life and your fate are in your own two hands. And realising that is liberating.

You don’t need to wait on people to do the right thing by you. You don’t have to wait for others to do stuff for you. You and only you are in charge of your life. Fate is in your hands. It’s not luck. What we get in life is not what we deserve or don’t deserve. It’s what we’re willing to work for.

People often say ‘you deserve to be treated better‘. The reality is what you deserve or not, doesn’t really matter. You will be treated the way you allow to be treated.

‘You deserve a better job‘… A better job won’t come and find you, you have to decide to look for one and work on improving your skills to get the job that you want.

Nobody is coming to save you.

This has really opened my eyes about my own goals. If I want to earn more I will have to make it happen. My manager, as much as we have a fabulous working relationship, won’t come and offer me more money out of the goodness of his heart. I will have to go in there and negotiate for what I want. Alternatively, I will have to find a different job. It’s not a matter of what I think I deserve, it’s what I’m willing to work for.

Similarly, I have certain fitness goals and as much as I want someone to motivate me to achieve them, it’s all down to me. I have to wake up an hour early to go to the gym. I have to make better food choices. I have to push myself in the right direction every day.

And while it’s always helpful to have someone on your side to cheer you on and make sure you stay on track, ultimately it’s all down to the individual. It’s me who has to get my life in order. It’s me who has to work hard for my goals and the life that I want. It’s me who has to show up and root for myself. It’s me who’s on my team.

It’s me who needs to save myself.

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